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I share a love of reading with one of my best friends. For over a decade, we have traded names of the books that take us on fictional adventures. We discuss the characters and the topics. We have even been able to communicate the challenges of our own lives through the parallel experiences of the people in the novels.

My friend’s tastes tend toward the complex. She enjoys books that unfold, reveal their intricacies, and change the reader in some small way.

Before the pandemic, I embarked on a couple of cross-country road trips. Since I could only work my way through the handful of my favorite albums so many times, I switched over to a new audiobook- The Silent Patient by Alex Michaelides. …


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The benefits of managing my writing house

I made the decision to start my own publication, An Amygdala, for a couple of reasons.

One, I’m striving to be a prolific writer. Hey, I need the practice. My commitment to keep my publication alive with new writing helps me write, even when my muse seems to be taking an extended vacation.

Two, believe it or not, I’m a pretty private person in my actual, physical life. In the past, I wasn’t super comfortable delving into parts of my story without feeling like I had more control. In my publication, I call the shots. I can post when I want to, and if regrets start hammering in my chest, I can take it down too. …


A Conversation

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“He’s so handsome. Just my type-tall, dark, and deep.”

“Deep? Really? You really liked his poetry?”

“I mean, there’s some stuff there.”

“No, there isn’t. Not compared to all the women in that group who write much better than him but aren’t you know-handsome tall males. I’ve met him. He is entirely full of crap.

“Can’t have it all. When is the last time you were truly inspired by a guy you were also attracted to?”

“Just because it’s rare doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. Have you ever considered that you don’t want him, per se? …


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We all have narcissistic traits, some of us more than others. Our behaviors fall on a spectrum and must be contextualized by the forces at play in our lives at any one time. When narcissism is pathological, however, the consequences are a lot bigger.

The pathological narcissist will wreak havoc on whomever he or she “invests” in.

It took me a long time to first recognize and then understand narcissism. I grew up around people who themselves were raised in horrifically toxic environments. Their backstories highlighted another important feature of narcissism: the injury.

Narcissists have wounds that make them feel ashamed.

You may never learn what the narcissistic injury is because even the narcissist does their best to hide from it. It’s simply too painful for them to acknowledge, and they neither have nor attempt to find the tools to heal the injury. …


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Even though I love the process of writing, there was something that made it feel like a chore. I felt a compulsion to standardize my writing so that the published piece was likely to be a success.

I did manage to solidify a process that guaranteed views. With this mechanized approach, I churned out essays. Yet, surprisingly, with each one, feelings of boredom and stagnancy chipped away at my motivation.

This happens when you abandon your creative impulse.

You will not find me demeaning anyone interested in financial strategies. We all need to eat. That said, most of us haven’t become writers to earn easy money. …


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Do you feel most loved when a partner compliments your skills? Maybe you prioritize spending quality time with loved ones. Have you been showered with presents but failed to find value in this gesture? You might need something else. Something different- like quality time.

Whatever the case may be, identifying your love languages is an important part of building a meaningful relationship.

According to current research, there are five major love languages:

  • words of affirmation
  • quality time
  • receiving gifts
  • acts of service
  • physical touch

A free online test can help you determine your primary love language. Once you have this knowledge, you can communicate your needs to your loved ones. If your partner thinks they’re meeting your needs by using their own love language, this new information can help you have a conversation about how you interpret love. …

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